There are many ways we can define betrayal. It could be the death of a loved one. Loss of a friend. Or the feeling that your partner is cheating on you. The important thing to know, however, is that all forms of betrayal are equally destructive, and only time will heal them if you let compassion and forgiveness rule your radiant, divine being.
There are three things we can do to overcome betrayal: First, to understand why we have been betrayed without blaming ourselves in the process; second, to use the event as an opportunity to learn about ourselves and other people; the third is to forgive ourselves and others for what happened.
While it may seem impossible at first to leave betrayal behind, it is possible with time and effort. By keeping these steps in mind, you will be able to stand up again and live your life again. Here’s how to overcome betrayal:
1. LEARN WHAT CAUSES IT
The first thing to do when hurt by betrayal is to understand what caused the betrayal to gain understanding so you can avoid making the same mistakes again in the future. Understanding what causes betrayal is the key to overcoming it. It is important that we not only look at the current situation but also look at past events to get a more complete picture of the situation and where our role stands.
2. SET NEW RULES
The second thing to do when hurt by betrayal is to develop a personal code of ethics that will prevent you from getting hurt again if someone betrays you in the future. Your personal code of ethics may be to have emotional boundaries in your relationships and to be freely bold, unapologetic, and expressive about those boundaries for your future relationships. You deserve to be loved, respected and valued in the best way possible. It’s okay to show other people how to love you the way you deserve.
3. PRACTICE SELF-COMFORT
The third thing to do when hurt by betrayal is to show self-compassion rather than self-criticism. Understand how this has affected your life and what needs to be done next. Coming back from betrayal isn’t easy, but you have to give yourself time. If you roll in self-pity or anger, it will only make things worse for you. No matter how long it takes you to get over the pain of betrayal, remember that healing takes time and is not accelerated by external factors.